What’s your little voice saying?

In our last ezine issue we addressed how fear is the number 1 obstacle to success. The function of our mind is to keep us safe and so it spends a great amount of time searching and scanning for unsafe situations.

The voice of the scanning can sound like fear. Blaire Singer calls it your little voice. What is your little voice saying to you?

Blair has a method that he uses to control that voice called “Little Voice Management” Techniques. The little voice of fear can inhibit you from being the best you can be. I would like to share a couple of his top LVM tools with you. These tools will help you to become conscious of how your mind works.

LVM #1 Learn to Celebrate your Successes

We have files of information (learning’s, emotions, situations, experiences etc.) that is not only stored in our minds but in our bodies as well. Some of the files in our mind need to be deleted or reprogrammed AND our bodies need that same kind of “defrag”. When our little voice of fear starts up we automatically go to those files throughout our brain and body that have dealt with these kinds of situations before; many times these thoughts don’t help us.

One way to change those automatic responses is to do something different. When you experience a success of any kind, big or small; celebrate! Do something physical.

• Give someone a high 5



• Get a hand shake



• Get a pat on the back



• Say “YES” to yourself with some gusto or



• Play your favorite song.
  

The point is to anchor in your success in your mind and body. You feel physically different when to celebrate with a whole body experience! When your body feels different your mind will follow and vice a versa.

Practice this. Celebrate in ALL things. Next issue we will address LVM tool #2. Until then,
Living fully alive and on purpose,

Laura Longville

“Danger Will Robinson!”

Many of you may remember the show from the 60’s called Lost in Space. Lost in Space was a TV show about the world's first space family that was selected to colonize a planet in the Alpha Centauri star system. They would all be frozen in suspended animation for a 98-year journey. The robots role was to be sent out into unknown territory and determine if the environment was safe for people. “Danger Will Robinson” was what the robot would say to the Will when he was in danger. Will Robinson was the youngest of 3 children who seemed to have the closest “relationship” with the robot.

You may be wondering why I am telling you about all of this?? There are 5 emotions that seem to rule our behavior and fear is at the top; love, lust, hate and pleasure/contentment are the remaining 4. Fear is the emotional response when we feel threatened.

Fear is the #1 obstacle to success in our personal and professional lives. There are many real dangers and perceived dangers in our world today. Some of the real fears or dangers today include, natural disasters, war and violence and much more. For today’s thoughts I want to address our perceived fears.

Most of our fears live between our two ears: in our mind. We might not actually hear the words, “Danger (insert your own name here)” but we sure give ourselves that message throughout our day.

It’s a normal function for the mind to protect. Its job is to interpret information and then feed back a response. Because of the minds role of protection, when you need to make an important phone call at work and your mind starts with, “They aren’t going to want to talk to me because…” , you don’t’ make the call. Or when you need to talk with a friend or spouse about something that is bothering you, your mind might kick in with, “They are going to get mad at me if I am honest, so I better not bring it up”. Then you don’t share your thoughts. These thoughts can inhibit you from reaching your goals and being successful.

SO what can we do about this automatic response? For the next few issues of Living with a Heart Fully Alive I will be sharing successful and proven tips on how to manage those thoughts. Blair Singer, a successful motivational speaker calls those thoughts our, “Little Voice”. So look for little voice management techniques in the next issue.

In the mean time my challenge to you is to notice your little voice and what is says to you. Also, take note about how this little voice is holds you back from success!

"Someday I'll.."

Did you know there really are 8 days in a week?

1. Monday
2. Tuesday
3. Wednesday
4. Thursday
5. Friday
6. Saturday
7. Sunday

AND

8. Someday

The elusive “someday”; the I’ll get to it some other day. As I revisited the wheel of life last week and compared it to the other wheels of life I have done, I noticed I had put off the same thing each year.

I found myself saying, “Someday I’ll get to jumping out of plane, or spend more time with my daughter riding horses, or Mark has always wanted to get a tandem bike and ride together, but we’ll do that when the kids get a little older.” Well that day keeps getting put off to the 8th day of the week; Someday.

We fool ourselves into thinking that we’ll get to it. What are your “someday” thoughts to achieving your “someday” goals? Whether these “someday” thoughts are obstacles (big or small) is up to you. Here are some suggestions to turn your “someday” dreams into achievable goals.

• Decide if this “someday” dream, passion or goal is REALLY important. Or is it a “should-do” goal? If it is really important to you do the following.


• Take your “someday” thoughts that have turned into obstacles and create goals.
  Example: “Someday I’ll get to ski diving but the fact is I’m just too old. I might get hurt”.
  Instead, I turn this thought into a goal of: I will research ski diving companies and talk to them about safety. See how taking “someday” thoughts or obstacle and turn it into can action step.


• Create an extra hour a week to make your “someday” idea a reality. What would that be like? Obstacles are meant to go around, over, under or completely remove them. Don't let the obstacles stop you in your tracks! Schedule time into your day to achieve your dream or goal.


• It’s NOW or never, not “someday”. Don’t miss out on something great because you let your someday thoughts become obstacles! Be fully present in today so you don't miss those powerful and amazing opportunities God gives you to live fully!!

• Let me help you make that “someday” goal or dream of yours a reality. I would love to coach and encourage you to do just that! Give me a call and set up an appointment for your personalized coaching session just for you. I look forward to hearing from you; call me at 605.342.0478